Are you a people pleaser? If you have a fear of success, chances are you might be. You know, someone who’s always seeking approval from friends, family, significant others, bosses, and just about everyone else in their life?
Maybe you’re the one who’s always taking on more and more work from your boss, even when you clearly have too much on your plate as it is.
Or maybe you choose romantic partners who are controllers, because you need the other person to be in charge.
What you can you do to break out of these patterns? Here are a few suggestions:
- Recognize the fact that you’re a people-pleaser. Becoming aware of it and acknowledging it is the first step.
- People-pleasers are often times afraid of expressing themselves to others, and their feelings have been held tightly inside for long periods of time. Start expressing your needs clearly and effectively to everyone in your life.
- Know that confrontation is not always a bad thing. If it’s an honest, healthy confrontation, it can lead to better communication in the future with any given person.
- Make friends with people who don’t have dominating, controlling personalities. These types of people can bring out the people-pleasing characteristics in all of us.
- Keep in mind that it’s perfectly okay to disagree with other people, and most of the time they’ll respect you for being upfront about your true thoughts and feelings, rather than agreeing with them just to avoid confrontation.
-Kevin
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