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Frozen

Monday, October 27th, 2008

Last night, I had a great idea for a new project for my business.  Not only did I have a great idea, but I had a great plan to get it done.  I knew the steps I had to take to make it a reality.  I had all the resources at my fingertips…

And yet I did nothing.

What happened?  Well, I froze, literally.  I don’t know if it was the distractions (the World Series was on) or if my fear of success was creeping back in…

All I know is that it didn’t feel very good when it came time to go to bed and my awesome idea hadn’t been given any life.  BUT…

The next day (today), when I woke up, I decided to forgive myself for freezing up and not putting my new idea into action.  After all, today was a brand new day, and there was no way that my idea was going to be obsolete already.  There was still plenty of time to put it into play!

Guess what?  I started the new project, and I feel great about it.  I’m so glad I decided to forgive myself and not dwell on the events of the previous night.

If this has happened to you, forgive yourself, and that will empower you to move forward and take massive action toward your dreams.

–Kevin

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Dealing with New Found Attention

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

If you are a fairly private person or you aren’t used to people giving you much attention, you’ll have to adjust a little bit once you gain some success.  This happens not only because people will be looking to you for advice and leadership, but they will also be watching what you do in order to follow your techniques.  All of a sudden, you’ve become a role model.

A lot of people with a fear of success are afraid of getting this new attention and having to deal with many more people than they come into contact with in their current situation.

The first step in getting over this hurdle is to embrace the love!  Realize that people are paying attention to you because you’ve been doing great things.  That’s something to be extremely proud of.  With your acquired knowledge and skills, you’ll be able to help countless others in their quest for success, and that will be a great feeling.

If you’re shy, get out there and mingle in order to prepare for the attention you’ll receive.  Try taking a class, attending a seminar in your field, or even going to a singles event.  Anything that will get you around other people so you can get used to it.

Don’t let a fear of people block your path to success.  Often, those people will hoist you to even greater heights!

-Kevin

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The Role of Self Esteem in Success

Wednesday, October 8th, 2008

Getting over a fear of success is going to require a high self esteem, but if yours isn’t too high yet, don’t worry about it.  It just has to be higher than where it’s at right now.

With high self esteem, you are more inclined to take actions that will fulfill your needs in life, career, etc.  This definitely increases your chances for success and happiness.

But, with low self esteem, you are less likely to take the necessary actions required to fill those needs.  This inaction will probably lead to feelings of frustration and despair.

They key is to recognize this relationship between mental fitness and physical actions.  Actions can come from a person with low self esteem just as easily as they can from someone with high self esteem.  The difference is the quality of the actions.

It is possible for someone with low self esteem to have the drive and talent to build a successful career or business.  There is more danger for that person, however, to experience an emotional “crash” or “breakdown” without a foundation of good self esteem.

On the other hand, it’s also possible for a person with high self esteem and an overload of confidence to lack the ability to take action that leads to success.  This person thinks that simply because he/she always feels good, success will come automatically, no matter what they do or don’t do.

In the next post, I’ll give you some simple tips you can implement right away to boost your self esteem and soar past the limits of fear of success, leading you to a happier and more abundant life.

-Kevin

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Three Techniques to Start With

Tuesday, October 7th, 2008

Yesterday, I started off by explaining the basic concepts behind fear of success, as well as the negative thoughts and behavior patterns it leads to.

So, what can we do to curb the phobia?  There a few techniques you can put into practice immediately in order to break the negative cycles and build more confidence:

1.  Compliment the successes of others.  Acknowledging the accomplishments of those around you will not only build up their sense of worth, but it’ll get your mindset focused on success as well.

2.  Say, “Thank you” when someone compliments you.  You’ll soon notice that these compliments will begin to positively affect the way you see yourself, instead of relying on false and imagined negative scenarios.

3.  When you find yourself in a situation where you’re surrounded by people (or even with just one person) who aren’t experiencing their desired levels of success in their lives, don’t fall into the trap of shrinking to a lower level so that they won’t feel insecure.  Know that you were born to achieve everything you want in life, and when you exude this kind of attitude, you’ll show others that they were born to do the same.

-Kevin

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Crush Your Fear of Success!

Monday, October 6th, 2008

Welcome to CrushFearOfSuccess.com.  My name is Kevin, and until recently, I was plagued with a gigantic fear of success.  With this blog, I’ll be sharing methods and techniques for overcoming this often-overlooked phobia.

I know, I know, I can already hear it.  “Fear of success? What’s that?  Shouldn’t you be talking about fear of failure?”

It’s different than fear of failure.  That’s right – a lot of us out there are actually afraid to achieve the things we want in our careers, relationships, and life in general.

The thing that’s going through our minds is, “When I become successful, what else in my life is going to change?”  Then, negative thoughts start creeping in.  Thoughts like:

“I don’t deserve to be successful.”

“If I do achieve success, I won’t be able to hold on to it.”

“My relationships with friends and family will be damaged.  I’ll be on such a different level then them, so I won’t be able to be around them.  They’ll probably even resent me for achieving success.”

These negative thoughts then lead to negative actions, like doing the wrong thing even when you know what’s right, in order to avoid the “hassle of success,” minimizing the importance of your accomplishments, and even feeling guilty when you attain success, leading to a loss of interest and drive in doing anything at all.

So, if the above describes you, I’m really glad you came to this blog.  I know you’ll get a lot out of it.

Tomorrow, I’ll give you some techniques you can implement right away so you can be on the road to crushing that pesky fear of success, and start building the life of abundance and prosperity you’ve only dreamed of before!

-Kevin Love

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