And yet I did nothing.

What happened?  Well, I froze, literally.  I don’t know if it was the distractions (the World Series was on) or if my fear of success was creeping back in…

All I know is that it didn’t feel very good when it came time to go to bed and my awesome idea hadn’t been given any life.  BUT…

The next day (today), when I woke up, I decided to forgive myself for freezing up and not putting my new idea into action.  After all, today was a brand new day, and there was no way that my idea was going to be obsolete already.  There was still plenty of time to put it into play!

Guess what?  I started the new project, and I feel great about it.  I’m so glad I decided to forgive myself and not dwell on the events of the previous night.

If this has happened to you, forgive yourself, and that will empower you to move forward and take massive action toward your dreams.

–Kevin

What do you stand to gain from pretending to be so powerless?

For a lot of us, there are actual, real benefits of our not-so-successful realities.  By rejecting our own power, we get to avoid taking action and putting energy into anything significant.  When I was rejecting my power, I was able to avoid the “hassle” of starting a business, and all the work that came along with it.  It was so much easier to go to my job every day.

Maybe we get to “punish” someone who might be counting on us to be successful, such as parents or spouses.  For me, it was my parents.  They’ve always known, and told me, that I can achieve anything I want.  For a while, I sure showed them!

Maybe there are some emotions that we conveniently get to hold inside, instead of going through the pain of releasing them.  I was angry at myself for not “making it” as an actor while I was living in Los Angeles.

Maybe we get to use our self-pity to manipulate ourselves and others.  It was no secret to everyone around me that I was feeling sorry for myself.

Maybe we feel safe from losing what we have now when we become successful, such as our friends, family, and comfortable routines.

Maybe there’s some extraordinary, awesome thing that we’re holding out for, like the perfect job, perfect relationship, or some other perfect opportunity.  Why settle for less when this perfect thing is sure to come?  I, of course, was holding out for my sure-to-come movie star status.

Once you identify and release these fears, you’re free to forgive yourself and move toward a successful life.

-Kevin

This was definitely prevalent in my situation.  Before I made the conscious decision to make a change in my life, I was a pretty miserable person to be around, not to mention the miserable thoughts I had about myself.  My family did a lot to help me and get back on my feet, and many times, I threw it right back in their face.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my family very much, but it was the toxicity of my mindset at the time that threw everything out of whack.

My friends were very supportive of me as well, but I was usually the downer of the group whenever we would get together.

When I forgave myself, as mentioned in the last post, another light bulb went off.  All this suffering was completely unnecessary.  Thankfully, with my shift in thinking, I was able to repair those relationships and build them up to greater levels than ever before.

If you’re in a state right now where you’re experiencing a crippling fear of success, remember to forgive yourself for failing to become successful in the past, and up to this point.  Now is the absolute best time to become successful!

-Kevin