Here are a few things you can do to help you visualize a successful life:

1.  Writing down your thoughts about your idea of success puts a ton of clarity into what it is that you actually want.  This process takes a bunch of scattered thoughts and puts them on a tangible piece of paper, so you can really take a good look at where you want to be.

2.  See yourself as already successful, and act that way in life right now.  Pay attention to what it feels like inside when you “think” of yourself as a successful person.  It will feel different than anything you’ve ever felt before; a hundred times more positive than you might be feeling right now.  This new feeling will positively affect your actions, and you’ll complete tasks with a higher level of quality, improve your relationships, and not only see, but begin to feel like a successful person.

3.  Bounce your ideas off of people you trust.  Talking about where you want to be and what you want to do will greatly increase your confidence about your ability to get there.

Start to visualize yourself as a successful person right away by using the techniques above.  Once you see yourself in a new light, the improved visual will start to manifest in your reality!

-Kevin

1.  Don’t compare yourself to others.  There will always be someone who is more talented than you, has more money than you, or is better looking.  If you’re always comparing yourself to other people, you’ll find there are too many to compete with.

2.  Begin to become aware of your negative self-talk.  If you’re always putting yourself down, you’ll never be able to raise your self esteem.  Avoid self-deprecation when thinking or speaking about your career, business, looks, relationships, etc.

3.  Take care of yourself physically.  Often, if we feel badly about ourselves on the inside, we neglect what’s on the outside.  Things you can do to take good care of yourself are, a) eating healthy, including plenty of fruits and vegetables, protein sources such as eggs and fish, and whole grains,  b) getting plenty of exercise, and c) going to the doctor for regular check-ups.

4.  Spend time with positive, successful people.  Their optimism and encouragement will rub off on you and raise your spirits instantly.

5.  Write down things you’ve accomplished in the past.  They don’t have to be huge monumental events.  Possibilites include awards you’ve won, a job you got, learning to drive, graduating high school and/or college, buying a house, starting a business, talking someone through a difficult situation, raising children, overcoming an illness, learning to play an instrument, and losing weight.

6.  Live your life for yourself.  Leading a life that others have decided for you will never build up respect for yourself.  Be true to yourself by making decisions based on what you feel is right, not what you think will please you friends or family members.

7.  Take action right now!  You’ll feel great and raise self esteem when you jump into a challenge.  Failing to take action, due to fear of success or other phobias, will lead to anxiety and frustration, which only serves to lower self esteem.

I really hope this list helps.

Until next time,

-Kevin

So, what can we do to curb the phobia?  There a few techniques you can put into practice immediately in order to break the negative cycles and build more confidence:

1.  Compliment the successes of others.  Acknowledging the accomplishments of those around you will not only build up their sense of worth, but it’ll get your mindset focused on success as well.

2.  Say, “Thank you” when someone compliments you.  You’ll soon notice that these compliments will begin to positively affect the way you see yourself, instead of relying on false and imagined negative scenarios.

3.  When you find yourself in a situation where you’re surrounded by people (or even with just one person) who aren’t experiencing their desired levels of success in their lives, don’t fall into the trap of shrinking to a lower level so that they won’t feel insecure.  Know that you were born to achieve everything you want in life, and when you exude this kind of attitude, you’ll show others that they were born to do the same.

-Kevin