I don’t know about you, but before I started to become successful in my life, I really loved getting help from other people. I loved all the sympathy I received because I was so “helpless.” I loved the compassionate support, both emotional and financial.
I mean I really loved it!
It was so easy.
During my time in L.A., I got a ton of this kind of support from my family. When they would hear about how bad things were going for me there, the financial and emotional support came pouring in. It felt really good.
Same thing when I moved back home.
If anything good seemed like it was going to happen to me, I was quick to nip it in the bud. I ignored opportunities for a second job to help myself get out of debt. I rejected offers of extra work at the job I had at the time. And I certainly avoided starting any healthy, successful relationships with anyone.
So what was going to happen if I actually started to make good money, became a better problem solver, and was able to take care of myself? Would anyone pay attention to me anymore?
This was pure fear of success at it’s finest (or ugliest!) Little did I know, the success I was avoiding was the very thing my supportive family was trying to help me attain. Once I looked inside myself and realized that they weren’t going anywhere no matter what happened, success or failure, I stopped seeking constant help from them. I didn’t want that kind of attention anymore.
Another breakthrough in my journey past my fear of success.
Until next time,
-Kevin