This was definitely prevalent in my situation.  Before I made the conscious decision to make a change in my life, I was a pretty miserable person to be around, not to mention the miserable thoughts I had about myself.  My family did a lot to help me and get back on my feet, and many times, I threw it right back in their face.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my family very much, but it was the toxicity of my mindset at the time that threw everything out of whack.

My friends were very supportive of me as well, but I was usually the downer of the group whenever we would get together.

When I forgave myself, as mentioned in the last post, another light bulb went off.  All this suffering was completely unnecessary.  Thankfully, with my shift in thinking, I was able to repair those relationships and build them up to greater levels than ever before.

If you’re in a state right now where you’re experiencing a crippling fear of success, remember to forgive yourself for failing to become successful in the past, and up to this point.  Now is the absolute best time to become successful!

-Kevin

When I started to build my business, I suddenly realized that I had the power to do it all along.  It was extremely hard to forgive my myself for that!  I said, “Wait, I could have done this last year, 2 years ago…even 5 to 10 years ago!  What’s my freakin’ problem!”

This went along even further as I thought back to my year in Los Angeles when I was trying to make it as an actor.  I thought of all the things I could have done differently in order to be successful in L.A., given what I know now about attaining success and changing your mindset.

Then I thought about the period of time when I moved back home.  Instead of picking myself up right away and getting on with my life, I got a less-than-fulfilling job and put off starting a business for another 3 years or so while I wallowed in self-loathing pity.

Then it finally dawned on me.  The only way I was going to get past this cycle of self-sabotage, low self esteem, and enormous fear of success was to forgive myself.  That’s right, it wasn’t up to anyone else.  I simply had to forgive myself and embrace the fact that I have the power to be successful now. It’s okay that I didn’t do it before and that I hadn’t attained very much success yet.

I know it kind of sounds a little oversimplified, but that’s really the way it is.  If I didn’t heal myself by forgiving myself, and realize that the forgiveness could only come from within me, I never would have been able to start and grow a business.

Believe me when I say it was a huge relief when I went through this process.  Following forgiveness, I felt like I could leave the past behind and take back the power of my life.

If the above applies to you, begin the healing process now.  Forgive yourself for not achieving much success yet.  Then, you’ll put the fear to rest and be able to charge forward.

-Kevin