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7 Ways to Boost Self Esteem

Thursday, October 9th, 2008

As promised in the last post, here are 9 ways you can give your self esteem a healthy boost, which will help to propel you past your fear of success:

1.  Don’t compare yourself to others.  There will always be someone who is more talented than you, has more money than you, or is better looking.  If you’re always comparing yourself to other people, you’ll find there are too many to compete with.

2.  Begin to become aware of your negative self-talk.  If you’re always putting yourself down, you’ll never be able to raise your self esteem.  Avoid self-deprecation when thinking or speaking about your career, business, looks, relationships, etc.

3.  Take care of yourself physically.  Often, if we feel badly about ourselves on the inside, we neglect what’s on the outside.  Things you can do to take good care of yourself are, a) eating healthy, including plenty of fruits and vegetables, protein sources such as eggs and fish, and whole grains,  b) getting plenty of exercise, and c) going to the doctor for regular check-ups.

4.  Spend time with positive, successful people.  Their optimism and encouragement will rub off on you and raise your spirits instantly.

5.  Write down things you’ve accomplished in the past.  They don’t have to be huge monumental events.  Possibilites include awards you’ve won, a job you got, learning to drive, graduating high school and/or college, buying a house, starting a business, talking someone through a difficult situation, raising children, overcoming an illness, learning to play an instrument, and losing weight.

6.  Live your life for yourself.  Leading a life that others have decided for you will never build up respect for yourself.  Be true to yourself by making decisions based on what you feel is right, not what you think will please you friends or family members.

7.  Take action right now!  You’ll feel great and raise self esteem when you jump into a challenge.  Failing to take action, due to fear of success or other phobias, will lead to anxiety and frustration, which only serves to lower self esteem.

I really hope this list helps.

Until next time,

-Kevin

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The Role of Self Esteem in Success

Wednesday, October 8th, 2008

Getting over a fear of success is going to require a high self esteem, but if yours isn’t too high yet, don’t worry about it.  It just has to be higher than where it’s at right now.

With high self esteem, you are more inclined to take actions that will fulfill your needs in life, career, etc.  This definitely increases your chances for success and happiness.

But, with low self esteem, you are less likely to take the necessary actions required to fill those needs.  This inaction will probably lead to feelings of frustration and despair.

They key is to recognize this relationship between mental fitness and physical actions.  Actions can come from a person with low self esteem just as easily as they can from someone with high self esteem.  The difference is the quality of the actions.

It is possible for someone with low self esteem to have the drive and talent to build a successful career or business.  There is more danger for that person, however, to experience an emotional “crash” or “breakdown” without a foundation of good self esteem.

On the other hand, it’s also possible for a person with high self esteem and an overload of confidence to lack the ability to take action that leads to success.  This person thinks that simply because he/she always feels good, success will come automatically, no matter what they do or don’t do.

In the next post, I’ll give you some simple tips you can implement right away to boost your self esteem and soar past the limits of fear of success, leading you to a happier and more abundant life.

-Kevin

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